THE DEPAIR OF FEELING LOST.
When I was 15, I worked at as waiter in a local restaurant. I served a woman who came in every Saturday morning, and we became friends. I told her my desire was to live a full and happy life, and that I wanted to change the world and help people. The next week, she brought me books on leadership, psychology, and change. I devoured the texts, bought a planner, created a mission statement, and began a life-long habit of setting goals.
I also wanted to learn how to overcome personal and family challenges and traumas. My parents were divorced when I was young and I lived in a very humble four-plex with my single mom. I understand poverty, hunger, loneliness, and discouragement. I know things can even get worse as later challenges involved abuse, fear, and uncertainty.
It is definitely not easy to grow up feeling lost, forgotten, unworthy of love and belonging, and to fear that life may never be happy.
Too often, I felt despair and hopelessness creeping in, but I held on to a dream that one day I could feel like I mattered, that I could discover happiness.
LIVING A BRAVER LIFE.
Those books fueled my desire to rise above these obstacles and find the road to happiness. I was determined to live a brave life, to never stop trying and growing, and most importantly, to be for others what I never really had. Today I am a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, and I have credentials from Daring Way™ and The Gottman Institute, both world renown for their evidenced-based programs to help people live fuller and happier lives and create the strongest and best relationships.
My promise to my clients is to provide kind and caring support, professionalism, courtesy, honest answers, and the best tools available for healing. As a therapist, many of my clients’ issues radiate from a desire to show they are living the perfect life. We live in a world with conflicting messages. The world says, “Do you best.” Yet the world also says, “Your best is never good enough.” Too many people are feeling dissatisfied with their lives, and are “numbing out” on social media and addictions.
Shaming is a sport — body shaming, work shaming, family shaming, religion shaming, clothes/house/car shaming. Coping with shame and feeling “not enough” is a daily challenge for most people.